Why Every Unmarried Father Must Sign the Anerkennung der Vaterschaft Before Birth

Becoming a father in Germany is emotional — but it's also legal.

For unmarried fathers, the biggest misconception is simple: *"I'm the dad. Everyone knows it. That's enough."*

It isn't.

Without the Anerkennung der Vaterschaft (paternity acknowledgment), the father does not legally exist.

Not for custody.

Not for school decisions.

Not even for medical emergencies.

What Happens If You Don't Sign Before Birth?

1. The mother has full custody automatically.

2. You have no legal say in anything concerning the child.

3. You cannot apply for joint custody.

4. If conflict occurs, you're legally powerless.

Many fathers learn this only *after* a breakup — often when it's too late.

When Should You Sign?

Ideally during pregnancy, or immediately after birth.

It is:

• free of charge,
• fast,
• done at the Jugendamt,
• the strongest future protection you can give yourself.

Why This Matters for Your Child

Children benefit from two legally recognized parents.

Delays create obstacles, confusion, and potential conflict.

If you're expecting a child, take this step early. Your future self will thank you.