Why You Should Secure Joint Custody While the Relationship Is Still Good
An honest look at why waiting until conflict arises makes joint custody harder — and how couples can protect their family early.
Love doesn't guarantee legal rights.
Many couples assume joint custody comes automatically. It doesn't — not for unmarried parents.
When the relationship is stable, the Sorgeerklärung takes 15 minutes to sign.
During conflict, it becomes a long and painful court process.
Why Doing It Early Protects Everyone
• It prevents one parent from gaining total legal control.
• It avoids weaponization of custody during breakups.
• It guarantees both parents equal responsibility.
• It reduces future stress, mistrust, and conflict.
Joint custody should be a shared commitment — not a courtroom battle.
Disclaimer: This blog post reflects personal experiences and opinions. It does not constitute legal advice. For advice specific to your situation, consult a qualified family law attorney.
About the Author
CustodyClarity is a father who has navigated the German custody system. This tool was built to help other parents facing similar challenges.